simple truths to walk in wonder rather than wallowing in worry
You pee on the stick and your heart races. The 5 minutes seems like hours as you pace back and forth, waiting for the timer to ding. You rush into the bathroom to check…and the two pink lines are only the beginning of the “pregnanxiety.” Suddenly you’re cast into a world where rules run rampant and deli meat=death. Don’t take a hot bath. Don’t eat seafood. Don’t lay on your back. Don’t work out excessively. Don’t scoop your cat’s poop. As all of the “don’ts” unravel, you realize you’ve probably already done something on the list. Guilt sets in. Your mind runs rampant, sailing straight past concern and into the waiting clutches of full-blow fear:
What if I already did something that harmed my baby? I didn’t even know!
What if there’s something wrong with him or her?
What if I miscarry?
What if I can’t handle labor?
What if I won’t be a good mom?
Sound familiar? What God intended to be a time of wonder and miracle becomes plagued by the icy grip of worry and fear. Our flesh tempts us to spend the entire 9 months in constant worry in a whirlwind of “what-ifs.” But here’s a what-if: what if we have another choice? What if we decided to quiet the fear culture and seek out the wonder amidst the worry? This is possible if we deny the lies, admit that statistics are not the same as truth, and cling to the true truth.
Pregnancy is not a state of illness; it is a state of wellness
Are you familiar with the first words God ever spoke to man?
“Be fruitful and multiply” (Genesis 1:28)
God had just formed them in His own image, the crown jewel of all creation. He blesses them, and speaks these words to them: bear children. Procreation was not an afterthought of God’s design for humans, it is the very first thing.
It is His perfect will for you to conceive, carry, and deliver this child to term, healthy. Your body is designed by the Creator Himself for this very purpose.
But where is this truth in your first pre-natal visit, the pregnancy books you scour, the online forums you read? Completely non-existent. Instead, our society views the process of childbearing as a state of illness. Think about it: during pregnancy you see a medical doctor more often than ever before, every possible thing is checked and tested, and ultimately you end up in the hospital. Sounds a lot like sickness to me! For the vast majority of women who enter pregnancy healthy and never develop complications, this process is complete overkill and pumps fear into our already hormone-saturated veins.
The truth is, your body knows what it needs to do. Read Genesis 1-3 and eat the foods that God created from the beginning: the plants, the animals, and all they produce. Move, exercise, and figure out what feels right. Listen to your body more and the fear-pushers less.
A curse and a Cure
Of course, Eden was perfect. There was no pain, no sickness, and no death. But the woman was deceived and suddenly God’s perfect design was tainted with sin. The Father’s heart broke because He knew all that was to come.
“To the woman he said, ‘I will make your pains in childbearing very severe; with painful labor you will give birth to children.'” – Genesis 3:16
The curse sets in from the moment we find out we are pregnant: Satan gets a foothold in in the very place God has laid a perfect gift: our wombs. The enemy doesn’t want us to enjoy a single minute of it. His ultimate goal is always our destruction.
Pretty much any story you hear about childbirth is one filled with pain, anguish, and fear. Most of us think the story stops here, in Genesis. But it doesn’t.
“But Christ has rescued us from the curse pronounced by the law.” – Galatians 3:13
“Yet she will be saved through childbearing—if they [women] continue in faith and love and holiness, with self-control” – 1 Timothy 2:15
Yes, we still experience the consequences of sin. This world is broken. But we are no longer held captive by the curse! We are free to forget fear, and cling to faith. To choose loving God over lusting after a certain outcome. To dismantle doubt by pursuing holiness and self-control.
Fear is never satisfied
You think you will stop worrying when the first trimester passes. I know that’s where I found myself, 7 weeks pregnant and still deep in The Gray. I made it to week 13, and the stats told me my risk of miscarriage had dropped below 1%. But the worry persisted. Then you start looking forward to each prenatal visit. If you can just hear the heartbeat, you will know everything is okay. Then you set your sights on the mid-pregnancy scan. That too passes. The weeks tick by, and finally you deliver a healthy baby. Phew, you might think, I can stop worrying now!
But you won’t. Your natural tendency is to continue to worry about your children from conception to eternity. Ask any mother; she will probably agree.
But surely this isn’t the life God has for us! The Bible says some form of “do not worry” 365 times. So how can we fight this?
First, we must know the enemy. Satan has a particular hatred for you, as a woman:
“And I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your offspring and hers.” – Genesis 3:15
He only wants your destruction, and the quickest way to that is to allow you to self destruct, letting God’s promises and gifts be eaten alive by worry and fear.
We must replace “worry” with surrender. We must surrender our bodies, our babies, and our grown children to God from conception until eternity. We must surrender every single day, and only then we will find freedom. Satan has no weapon that can come between God and a surrendered spirit.
“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 4:6-7
Will you join me in praying this prayer?
Dear Lord, today I choose to surrender this child to you. You have intentionally placed him in my womb, and you are knitting him together perfectly. I choose faith over fear. I choose trust over doubt. I choose your peace over Satan’s turmoil. I believe that your plans for childbearing are perfect, and I surrender my will to Yours. Walk with me each day of this pregnancy and every day of this child’s life, for you are the ultimate parent. Thank you for your promises and I ask that You will continue to reveal them to me, and bring them to mind in times of weakness. Thank You that Jesus paid the price for me to be free from the curse. Free me from any chains that continue to bind me! I am wholly surrendered to You.